An honest and transparent post geared toward my fellow Christian singles-
Sometimes as Christians, I believe that it can be easy for us to idolize being married or merely having a significant other. You may think that idolatry is a strong word for me to use, but an idol can be anything that one allows to be at the forefront of their mind at all times. More importantly, an idol is anything one puts before God (Exodus 20:3).
My friend, I am here to say to you that idolatry is rather unhealthy to the mind, and in God’s eye, it is a sin. (1 Corinthians 10:14)
Let me be abundantly clear; there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be married. Marriage is a beautiful union. However, as Christian singles, we have to be mindful that we do not allow this desire to become an idol in our lives.
As young people, social media is in our face 24/7. How often do we see our friends on Facebook and Instagram starting relationships, getting engaged, and later tying the knot? Constantly.
Social media convinces us that marriage is life’s ultimate goal. That there’s nothing more to life than having a significant other. That could not be further from the truth. Yes, marriage is beautiful and enjoyable, but I promise you that there’s so much more to this life than being married. Being married or having a significant other does not equate to a lifetime of happiness, nor does it guarantee merriment.
As singles, it is easy for us to compare our lives or a lack-of-a-partner to those seemingly perfect couples we see on the internet. Here’s the reality- not many couples are vulnerable enough to share their lowest moments on the internet (which they are not obligated to and, truthfully, should not). The majority of the people or couples online, only share their best moments or their high points. The moments where they look and feel their best. Social media is extremely deceptive and what I believe to be a false reality. Social media can make one idolize something that someone else has, something that’s possibly not even real. Truthfully, you never know what anyone or any couple goes through.
I have also noticed that it is easy to become naïve out of desperation. Some singles believe that once they get married, all of their problems will go away. That once they’re married, they would no longer struggle with lust, pornography, or perversion. That is not true. Marriage will not solve a lust problem, but it could damage and ultimately destroy a marriage if it is not resolved before marriage. One must bring those inner-personal issues to God before even entering a relationship. Carry every struggle to God in prayer and be honest with Him! Jesus truly cares. (Philippians 4:6).
________________________________________
As I close, I want to say this; it is okay if you have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend. It is okay if you have never been on a date or never got flowers in the mail. That is perfectly okay, and don’t allow anyone to let you feel less than.
Let me remind you that your worth and value does not come from any man or any woman. Your worth only comes from Jesus; you were bought with a precious price (1 Corinthians 6:20).
So to all my friends that saw all those engagements over the holidays and Valentine’s Day post last weekend and felt a tad bit discouraged:
- Travel with friends
- Read a new book
- Try new foods
- Learn how to play an instrument
- Find your purpose
- Learn a new language
- Go back to school and finish that degree!
Go live your best life and focus on yourself!
I always believed that it is better to be single, wishing you were married, rather than being married wishing you were single! So, learn how to embrace your singleness, be content in the Lord and never settle!
Wait on the Lord because if it is in HIS PERFECT WILL for you to be married, it will happen! Just trust in God and let Him use you in whatever season you’re in! 🙂
Remain faithful to the precious faith, my friends!
Much love,
Bri 🙂
Simply Bri 